How Do You Make Adults Be Friends? Building Connections in Forest School
Introduction
Building friendships as an adult can feel challenging, especially in new environments. In this episode of The Forest School Podcast, Lewis and Wem explore the dynamics of adult friendships, particularly in Forest School settings. They share insights, anecdotes, and practical tips for fostering genuine connections among adults in a supportive, nature-based environment.
Why Adult Friendships Matter
The episode begins with a reflection on why adult friendships are so important. Wem observes: “As adults, we don’t always have the same opportunities to make friends that kids do. We get stuck in routines, and it can feel awkward to put yourself out there.”
Lewis adds: “In Forest School, we often focus on the kids, but the adults—parents, caregivers, even leaders—benefit just as much from building connections. Friendship adds so much to the experience.”
Breaking the Ice
The hosts discuss the challenge of breaking the ice with new groups of adults. Wem shares: “It’s easy to feel self-conscious, especially in a group where everyone seems to already know each other. That’s why creating a welcoming, low-pressure environment is so important.”
Lewis suggests using nature as a conversation starter: “The woods give you so much to talk about. You can start with something simple like, ‘Look at that tree,’ and before you know it, you’re sharing stories.”
The Role of Shared Experiences
A recurring theme in the episode is the power of shared experiences to build connections. Wem explains: “When adults work together—building a fire, setting up a tarp, or just walking through the woods—it creates a natural bond. You’re not just talking; you’re doing.”
Lewis highlights the importance of collaboration: “In Forest School, we encourage group activities that require teamwork. It’s not about forcing friendships—it’s about giving people opportunities to connect.”
The Challenge of Vulnerability
The hosts also acknowledge the challenge of vulnerability in adult friendships. Wem reflects: “It can be hard to let your guard down, especially if you’ve had negative experiences in the past. But vulnerability is what makes friendships meaningful.”
Lewis adds: “As leaders, we can model vulnerability by sharing our own stories or admitting when we don’t have all the answers. It shows that it’s okay to be real.”
Practical Tips for Fostering Adult Friendships
The episode concludes with practical advice for leaders and participants looking to foster connections among adults in Forest School:
Create a Welcoming Environment:
Wem advises: “Start sessions with a warm welcome and an inclusive activity. It sets the tone for connection.”Encourage Group Activities:
“Activities like building a shelter or cooking over a fire naturally bring people together,” Lewis explains. “They’re less intimidating than starting a conversation from scratch.”Use Nature as a Conversation Starter:
Wem suggests: “Point out something interesting in the environment—it’s an easy way to get people talking.”Be Patient:
“Friendships take time,” Lewis reminds listeners. “Not everyone will click right away, and that’s okay.”Model Openness:
Wem shares: “When leaders are approachable and authentic, it creates a ripple effect. People feel safer to open up.”
Conclusion
Fostering adult friendships in Forest School isn’t about forcing connections—it’s about creating opportunities for shared experiences, conversation, and authenticity. By building a welcoming environment and using the natural world as a backdrop, we can help adults rediscover the joy of making friends. As Lewis and Wem remind us, connection isn’t just for the kids—it’s for everyone.