Rethinking Encouragement: Why Words Matter in Inclusive Education
Introduction
What’s the difference between encouragement and pressure? In this episode, we (Wem and Lewis) took a critical look at the concept of encouragement and explored how it can unintentionally exclude or overwhelm participants. From subtle language shifts to creating more inclusive environments, we discussed how educators can rethink the way they support and motivate others.
Encouragement: Helpful or Harmful?
Encouragement is often seen as a positive force, but it’s not always experienced that way. Wem kicked off the discussion by explaining how phrases like “You can do it!” or “Keep going!” can sometimes create unintended pressure, especially for neurodiverse individuals or those with anxiety.
Lewis reflected on moments when his well-meaning words of encouragement backfired, causing participants to feel judged or rushed. This raised the question: Is it possible to support someone without unintentionally imposing expectations?
The Unseen Impact of Language
Language is powerful, and even small changes can have a big impact. Wem described the difference between directive encouragement (e.g., “You’ve got this!”) and neutral observation (e.g., “You’re giving it a try”). The latter allows individuals to interpret and respond in their own way, fostering autonomy and reducing pressure.
We discussed how inclusive language can make a huge difference, especially for children who may feel overwhelmed by traditional forms of encouragement. “Sometimes, the best thing you can say is nothing at all,” Wem noted.
Encouragement and Ableism
One of the most thought-provoking parts of the episode was our discussion on the ableist undertones of some types of encouragement. Statements like “If they can do it, you can too!” ignore individual differences and capabilities, creating a one-size-fits-all approach to motivation.
Lewis shared an example from a Forest School session where a child was hesitant to climb a tree. Instead of saying, “You’ll regret it if you don’t try,” he opted for, “It’s okay to watch and decide later.” This simple shift validated the child’s feelings and allowed them to engage on their own terms.
Creating Space for Choice
One of the central themes of our conversation was the importance of choice. True encouragement doesn’t push—it opens doors. Wem explained how providing options and respecting boundaries can help participants feel more in control and less pressured.
We also discussed the value of celebrating effort rather than outcome. Instead of saying, “You did it!” try, “I saw how hard you worked on that.” This subtle change focuses on the process, making the experience more inclusive and empowering.
Practical Tips for Rethinking Encouragement
If you want to use encouragement more thoughtfully, here are some strategies we discussed:
Pause Before Speaking: Take a moment to consider whether your words will motivate or pressure.
Use Neutral Language: Make observations instead of judgments (e.g., “You’re holding steady” rather than “Great job!”).
Respect Boundaries: Allow participants to opt out or try things at their own pace.
Celebrate Effort: Focus on the journey, not just the result.
How This Applies to Forest School
In Forest School settings, where risk-taking and exploration are key, encouragement can be a double-edged sword. Wem shared a story about a child who spent weeks watching others build shelters before finally joining in. By respecting their timeline and offering quiet support, the educators created a space where the child felt safe to engage on their own terms.
This approach not only fosters inclusivity but also builds trust and confidence over time.
Conclusion
Encouragement, when used thoughtfully, can be a powerful tool for building confidence and fostering growth. But it’s equally important to consider the impact of our words and ensure they empower rather than pressure. By rethinking encouragement, we can create spaces where everyone feels supported, respected, and free to be themselves.
Want to dive deeper into this topic? Tune in to the full episode for insights, stories, and practical tips on inclusive language in education.