Supporting the Explosive Child – Building Safe Spaces in Forest School
Introduction
Every Forest School leader has encountered children with big emotions—those who can shift from calm to explosive in seconds. These moments can be challenging, but they also offer opportunities for growth, connection, and understanding. In this episode of The Forest School Podcast, Lewis and Wem explore strategies for supporting children with intense emotional responses, creating environments where they feel safe to express and regulate their feelings.
The Winter Context
The episode begins on a cold, damp day, mirroring the emotional landscape they’re about to discuss. Wem reflects: “It’s a sensory reminder of how winter feels—not just for our bodies but for our minds. The cold can make everything feel a bit heavier, and that’s true for emotions too.”
Lewis adds: “It’s a good metaphor for what we’re talking about. Just like winter, explosive emotions can feel overwhelming, but they’re part of the cycle. The key is learning how to navigate them.”
Understanding the Explosive Child
Wem introduces the concept of the “explosive child,” a term often used to describe children who experience sudden, intense emotional outbursts. “These kids aren’t being difficult on purpose,” she explains. “They’re struggling to communicate or manage their feelings in the moment.”
Lewis highlights the importance of reframing how we see these behaviours: “Instead of thinking, ‘This child is disruptive,’ we can think, ‘This child is overwhelmed.’ That shift changes how we respond.”
Strategies for Support
The hosts share practical strategies for supporting explosive children in Forest School:
Create Predictability:
Wem explains: “Children with big emotions often feel safer when they know what to expect. Clear routines and transitions can help reduce anxiety.”Offer Choices:
“When kids feel out of control, giving them options can help,” Lewis suggests. “Instead of saying, ‘You have to join the group,’ try, ‘Would you like to join now or take a break first?’”Use Reflective Language:
Wem advises: “Say what you see: ‘I notice you’re clenching your fists. It looks like you’re feeling upset.’ This helps kids feel seen and understood without adding pressure.”Provide Sensory Tools:
Lewis shares: “Sometimes a physical outlet—a piece of clay to squeeze, a stick to whittle, or even just running—can help release pent-up energy.”Be the Calm in the Storm:
Wem emphasises the leader’s role in co-regulation: “When a child is overwhelmed, our calm presence can help them find their footing. It’s not about fixing the emotion—it’s about being there with them.”
The Role of the Environment
A recurring theme in the episode is how the natural environment supports emotional regulation. Wem observes: “The woods are a calming space for many children. The sounds, textures, and open spaces give them room to process.”
Lewis adds: “But it’s not magic. Just being outdoors isn’t enough. It’s about how we use the space—creating areas for quiet retreat, encouraging movement, and being attuned to each child’s needs.”
Challenges and Reflections
The hosts acknowledge that supporting explosive children isn’t always easy. Wem shares: “It can be exhausting, especially on days when the group’s energy is already stretched. But those are the moments when we grow as leaders.”
Lewis reflects on the importance of self-care: “To support others, we need to take care of ourselves. That might mean taking a breath, asking for help, or reflecting on what went well and what we can improve.”
Building Long-Term Skills
The episode concludes with a focus on helping children develop long-term emotional regulation skills. Wem explains: “It’s not about avoiding big emotions—it’s about giving kids the tools to navigate them. That’s a gift they’ll carry for life.”
Lewis adds: “And it’s not just about the kids. When we learn to support them, we grow too. It’s a shared journey.”
Conclusion
Supporting explosive children is both a challenge and a privilege. By creating safe, understanding spaces in Forest School, we can help these children navigate their emotions, build resilience, and thrive. As Lewis and Wem remind us, the goal isn’t perfection—it’s connection, compassion, and growth for everyone involved.